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The ONE Thing that is Holding You Back

The ONE Thing

We all have goals in life, right? All of our goals look a little bit different, but nonetheless, we all have them.

But have you ever been guilty of setting goals (especially at the beginning of a new year), and then after about a week, you just forget about them? Or do you just have those goals in your mind, but you’re too scared to write them down? If you write them down, you feel more accountable right?

Listen, if you are just repeating the same old, same old, day in and day out, and never taking a leap of faith toward the goals you set because you are scared of what may happen, then you are letting FEAR hold you back. You are staying in your comfort zone where you are safe and cozy and nothing amazing ever happens until you step out of it and embrace the world of the unknown.

I am living proof of that. I am probably the most naturally introverted person you will ever meet, but I stepped out of my comfort zone into the world of marketing and websites and Facebook groups and LIVE video (an introvert’s worst nightmare – am I right?). I stopped letting FEAR hold me back. And because of that, I have been able to gain amazing clients and customers and great friends along the way.

If you are stuck in a job you hate or a business you don’t love, it is time to stop letting your fear interfere with you doing something in life that makes you feel worthwhile. Life is just too short to spend it stuck in a place that you aren’t passionate about because you are too scared about what may happen. Have you thought about the fact that something GREAT could happen? What if you stepped on faith and God took care of the rest? What if you put your fears aside about what other people think (because let’s face – that’s a biggie for most of us!) and just go for it? It could end up being the biggest blessing to you and you family. What if you decided to go ahead and join that company you’ve been hearing such good things about and your business ended up exploding and you earned more than you ever thought you could??

Maybe your goals aren’t business related at all. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn to sail, but you’re too afraid to get out on the water? You’ll never sail if you let the sea win. Or maybe one of your lifetime goals has been to run a 10K or a marathon, but you’re afraid of what others may think of you because you’ve never actually been known as a “runner.” Do it anyway. Prove it to them, but most importantly, prove it to yourself that you can do it, and then work your butt off for it.

You’ve got to stop letting FEAR control you. Nobody that has ever had major success in life did it while standing on the sidelines. You’ve got to push the fear aside and stop letting it hold you back. Wouldn’t it be so sad to get to your final days in this life and have regrets because you were too scared to chase your dreams? I don’t want you to have “if onlys” or “I wish I would haves”…

Life is too short to live with regret. Push past the fear and just go for it.

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Oh, the Places You’ll Go…

Life is so full of surprises, isn’t it? One year ago, I was planning a wedding, working a full-time job while running a fitness business on the side, teaching group fitness classes, and trying to keep my head above water while in-between houses (since I had just sold my home before the wedding!). I was exhausted to say the least.

Up to this point, I had had my hand in several business ventures. Back when I was in college, I decided to join Mary Kay and become an Independent Beauty Consultant. I have always loved makeup, and while being a part of Mary Kay was fun, the business model didn’t pair well with my busy lifestyle. I continued to work full-time corporate jobs, and in 2014 I decided to become a fitness coach. I had been on my own health and wellness journey for several years, so I thought it was time to begin a business where I could help and encourage others along the way. I partnered with Beachbody, and during that time I led hundreds of clients through online programs, focusing on fitness and nutrition. My clients inspired me daily. This business led to friendships that I still cherish today (some were even bridesmaids in my wedding!). In March of 2016, I decided to take my business to the next level by hiring a business coach where I learned many systems, processes, and marketing strategies. I also began studying exercise and sports nutrition, and in December I became a certified nutrition coach.

After my wedding in September, I began to feel called out of focusing on my nutrition business. While extremely rewarding, it was also very time consuming. It was beginning to cut into family time, and that was something that I never wanted. Family was, is, and always will be number one. Around that time, a business opportunity arose with another cosmetic and skincare line that I had never heard of before – SeneGence. This business model and structure fit my lifestyle perfectly and was so much fun to work. My partnership with SeneGence has been the biggest blessing that I never saw coming. I am continuing to grow this business daily, and I am so thankful for the precious ladies God has put into my life through this company. My team has a special place in my heart, and I cannot wait to see where this business goes.

With my new partnership with SeneGence on the rise, I felt even more led to give up my fitness business. While fitness is still very much a part of my life, the business side of it no longer needed to be. But after calling it “quits” with my fitness business, I began to feel a void in my life. Yes, I am still helping women daily feel more confident and enriching their lives through SeneGence, but I truly missed being able to make a significant impact through serving others. I wanted to make a real difference.

After much prayer (and encouragement from others!), I can now proudly announce the beginning of my newest business adventure – my Virtual Assistant business. Honestly, this just seemed like the next step. I have always had a heart for others, in particularly female entrepreneurs. As a business owner myself, I fully understand the struggle of juggling family and business and finding the perfect work/life balance because I personally went through it! My mission is to provide online business owners the virtual assistance needed to create freedom and flexibility in their schedules so that they may spend more time doing the things that are most important. I already have some amazing things lined up for my clients, and I cannot wait to see what God is in store!

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters” – Colossians 3:23

 

 

Whatever Happened to Gratitude?

Gratitude: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

 

I’ve come to realize just how rare this quality is these days.

 

Just in the past week, I’ve witnesses more selfishness, hatefulness, and ungratefulness than I have seen in a very long time. In our society, it seems that no good deed goes unpunished. People try to take advantage of you. You try and do something nice for others, and all they seem to do is complain about what you DIDN’T do with no “thank you” for what you DID do. 

Also, now more than ever, our society lives in an “all about me” mentality. It’s all about “what can you do for me?” or “what can I get out of this?” and “how long can I MOOCH off of this?”

 

Whatever happened to gratitude? Being thankful for acts of kindness? When did we enter such a selfish mindset? Or maybe it’s actually a lazy mindset where we think the world owes us a favor?

 

Either way, I still choose gratitude.

I still choose to show appreciation when someone offers me a meal. I still choose to be thankful when someone offers a place to stay. I still choose to show my gratitude by offering help in return for acts of kindness. I still choose to send cards in the mail to offer encouragement to those who are struggling. I still choose to send little gifts to team members to show how much I appreciate their hard work. I still choose to work hard to chase my dreams because I’m grateful for the opportunity to do so, and I know this world doesn’t owe me a dime.

I still choose to be grateful when things don’t go my way because God has a greater plan in mind.

 

Gratitude is not only a virtue, but a mindset. Choosing to be grateful should not be something our grandparents did – it should be something we choose to do each and every day. We do not deserve any of the blessings we have on this earth. We do not deserve any of the gifts given to us. We do not deserve grace. We do not deserve salvation. But I am so grateful for it.

 

That’s how we should be in all things. So, so grateful.

Friday Favorites: Snickerdoodle Crepes

For all of you that have been following my keto journey, you know that I have been venturing out with recipes so that my husband (and myself!) do not get bored. I have been especially loving all of the new breakfast food, particularly these Snickerdoodle Crepes! I had been missing my pancakes, so I made these this past weekend, and they were just the right thing for my sweet tooth fix. The buttery filling is especially delicious if you get it a little more on the melted side – it acts as a syrup too! We paired them with bacon and some farm fresh eggs (and coffee, of course!). 

If you aren’t following keto, you could even top these with strawberries or caramelized apples or peaches and whipped cream! The possibilities are endless.

 

 

Ingredients:

For the crepes:

  • 6 eggs
  • 5 oz cream cheese, softened
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • 1 Tbsp granulated sugar substitute (I used Swerve)
  • butter for frying (I used coconut oil cooking spray)

For the filling:

  • 8 Tbsp butter, softened
  • ⅓ cup granulated sugar substitute (I used Stevia in the Raw)
  • 1 Tbsp cinnamon

 

Instructions:

  • Blend all of the crepe ingredients (except the butter) together in a blender or magic bullet until smooth. Let the batter rest for 5 minutes. Heat butter in a nonstick pan (or griddle) on medium heat until sizzling. Pour enough batter into the pan to form a 6 inch crepe. Cook for about 2 minutes, then flip and cook for an additional minute. Remove and stack on a warm plate. You should end up with about 8 crepes.
  • Meanwhile, mix your sweetener and cinnamon in a small bowl or baggie until combined. Stir half of the mixture into your softened butter until smooth.
  • To serve, spread 1 Tbsp of the butter mixture onto the center of your crepe. Roll up and sprinkle with about 1 tsp of additional sweetener/cinnamon mixture.

 

Notes

Approx nutrition info per serving: 434 calories, 42g fat, 2g net carbs, 12g protein

Nutrition Information

Serving size: 2 crepes, 2 Tbsp filling

 

*Recipe courtesy of I Breathe I’m Hungry

Friday Favorites: Cheeseburger Meatloaf

Ok, I know you just saw “meatloaf” in the title and rolled your eyes…

 

My husband did too when he heard that I was cooking meatloaf for dinner on Monday night. I asked him just to give it a try before he decided he didn’t like it. He was a good sport, but I know that deep down, he was already thinking he would be reaching for the leftover pizza in the fridge after he tasted it and proved to me that he wasn’t a fan.

To his surprise, however, this variation of meatloaf was a huge success and will be coming up in our meal rotation. It is slightly different from traditional meatloaf, in that it is keto approved AND is loaded with cheesy goodness!

 

Ingredients:

  • 2 pounds raw ground beef (I used ground turkey)
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup grated Parmesan
  • 1 small diced onion
  • 2 teaspoons salt
  • 1 teaspoon garlic powder
  • 1/2 cup cheddar cheese, cut into cubes (I used shredded, and it worked just fine!)

Directions:

  1. Mix all of the ingredients except the cheddar cheese. Be careful not to over mix as this can make the meatloaf tough. Mix in the cheese cubes.
  2. Place mixture into a lightly sprayed large oven safe dish. Form into a meatloaf shape.
  3. Bake at 350-f for 1 hour, until cooked through and browned on top.
  4. Optional: garnish with sugar free ketchup.

 

I served this meatloaf with mushrooms and asparagus, and it was delicious! You could also eat it with a side of pickles (since it is a cheeseburger dish, after all!). Enjoy!

 

 

***Recipe courtesy of Jam Hands

Who are you when you think Jesus isn’t looking?

Today on my lunch break, I decided to make a quick stop into the local CVS for a few necessities (shaving cream and something to battle these terrible summer allergies!). I usually make at least one stop into the store each week because I get great customer service and the employees are always so friendly.

As I was standing in the checkout line, the man behind the counter begins to tell me how he sees me in the store quite often and asks if I work in the area. I tell him yes and we begin to chat about the city, community, church, local activities, etc. We discovered that we had an “acquaintance” in common, and the man goes on to praise this acquaintance as such a wonderful person that he held in high regard. I stood there shocked and almost speechless because my thoughts about the common acquaintance were…let’s just say, definitely less admirable. So what caused the stark difference in opinion? This man went to church with the common acquaintance, and I knew who the person was out in the world – beyond the church doors. I smiled and nodded, thanked the man for his help, and went on my way.

 

I left the store with a mix of emotions. How could our opinions be such complete polar opposites? Do people view ME that differently outside of God’s house? Am I truly the same person – with the same integrity, same values, same morals, same smile, same heartfelt concern for others, same positive attitude – that I am on Sunday? Would people who know me outside of God’s house say the same things about me as the ones that see me in church each week? I sure hope so. And if not, today is a great day to get my attitude in check and be intentional in living out the person that I strive to be EACH and EVERY day. I don’t want to be the person that puts on her “church face” on Sunday.

My prayer today is that each of us live out our Christian lives on a day-to-day basis so that others may see Jesus in us and through us. We are to be a witness to everyone – the sinners and the saints. Sometimes we forget that people are watching us. Who are you when no one is looking? I want to live out my days like God would have me to live them – for Him and for His glory. I want my friends to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I know Jesus. I want them to come to me when they need to be lifted up in prayer. I want strangers to know that I am authentically, genuinely concerned for them and their salvation just by my actions. I want my life to be a walking Bible for the world to see. I want to treat people as Jesus would treat them.

 

So who are you? Are you the person people know on Sunday? Who are you when you think Jesus isn’t looking?

Friday Favorites: Sunless Tanner

I would like to preface today’s edition of Friday Favorites by saying that I have always hated self-tanner. Putting it on is such a chore: making sure you are putting it on evenly so it doesn’t streak and trying to apply on areas that are hard to reach, all while trying to hurry so you can wash your hands before it leaves an orange stain. Then afterwards, you have to stand around awkwardly for an hour waiting for it to dry before you can get dressed so that all of your hard work will not be in vain. Who has that much time? Or patience?? Especially when you usually end up with streaks anyway, looking like an orange zebra…

 

Needless to say, after my previous experiences, I was absolutely against using self-tanner.

 

However, after a scary visit to the dermatologist back in May where I was diagnosed with Dysplastic Nevi, which is noncancerous, but people who have them are at an increased risk of developing melanoma later on in life. So as much as I love to sunbathe in the summer, I have to give it up. SeneGence released a new Self-Tanning Coconut Bronzing Milk several months back, and while I had been hesitant to try it (because of my previous self-tanning horror stories), I continued to hear wonderful things about it and decided to give it a try.

 

 

To my surprise, I absolutely fell in love with the product. It gives a nice, naturally bronze glow. It does not streak, and it does not leave an orange stain on your hands after application. It sprays on, so it is easy to get an even application. It also does not take long to try. After about 15 minutes, I can get dressed and go about my day. It also has a wonderful coconut smell that is just like “beach in a bottle.” This has quickly became one of my favorite SeneGence products by far!

 

*Personal Results*

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Friday Favorites: Keto-Friendly Biscuits

So…it’s been awhile since I’ve done a “Friday Favorites” edition on the blog. I promise to try and do better 😉

 

Over the past month, I have been testing out a new way of eating called the “ketogenic diet.” Basically, it is a high fat, moderate protein, very low carb style of eating. Several clients had asked me about it, so I decided to give it a try for myself so I could provide honest feedback.

The first week of the diet, I was down a total of three pounds. I never felt hungry, and in fact, I was overjoyed to eat foods that I had written off as “off limits” for years (aka BUTTER).

I actually made biscuits for the first time ever (sad, I know), but they turned out AMAZING! They are made from almond flour, so they are extremely low carb and keto-friendly.

Give them a try this weekend. I promise you won’t be disappointed!

 

Ingredients:

1 cup almond flour
1/4 tsp sea salt
1 tsp baking powder
4 egg whites
2 TBSP VERY COLD organic butter (cut into pieces) or cold coconut oil
Optional: add 1 tsp of garlic or your favorite spice (omit for sweeter biscuits)

Directions:

Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Grease a cookie sheet or muffin pan with coconut oil spray. Whip egg whites until very fluffy. In a separate medium bowl, mix the baking powder into the almond flour. Then cut in the butter and salt (if the butter isn’t chilled, the biscuits won’t rise). Gently fold in the dry mixture into the whites. Dollop the dough onto the cookie sheet (or muffin tin) and bake for 11-15 minutes. Makes 8 servings.

I like to top them with natural peanut butter, coconut butter, or you can make a savory biscuit and add cheese!

 

*Recipe curiosity of Maria Mind Body Health 

We Never Minded the Mess

Sometimes I get tired.

 

I get tired of trying to work a full time job while also working my own side business, grocery shop, cook nutritious meals, make time for workouts, keep a clean house, get the laundry done, etc.

 

So sometimes it doesn’t get done.

 

I used to think that I had to do it all. I had to keep a spotless house while getting up at 4:00 am to work out while eating nothing but “clean” food. I had to come home in the evenings and spend countless hours “hustling” on a side business to make my family more income so we could have nice things.

But then I realized my priorities were way out of order. I was failing to make time for my family because I had work to do. I was failing to keep God first because I didn’t “have time” to do my daily Bible study. All of my free time was spent listening to business podcasts and getting caught up on countless errands because there just weren’t enough hours a day to get everything done. I was sacrificing sleep: staying up late to finish projects and rising before the sun to try and get ahead of the day. I was always tired, always stressed, and always (no matter how hard I tried) still lacking to accomplish everything that needed to be done.

 

So I stopped.

 

I realized I couldn’t do it all. I couldn’t even come close. I began to look back at my childhood and how my parents did things. Sometimes the house was messy. Sometimes we had pizza for dinner. And sometimes (actually, a lot of times) we slept late on the weekends.

You know why?

Because they had their priorities in order. We always went to church on Sunday, and my Daddy always said grace before we ate. We had family meals together. We played outside and spent QUALITY time together. I knew what football and baseball were by the time I was 5 because my Daddy taught them to me. My mama let us sleep in because she knew we were only going to be little once. She taught me how to do my hair and makeup. She always made everything we did so much fun, no matter what it was. She was the best concert buddy in the car ;-).

Both of them have always been my biggest supporters and believed I could do anything I set my mind to do. And I know they were never able to do it all when my sister and I were growing up – but they did the things that mattered MOST – and we never minded the mess 🙂  

 

We may have had a messy house at times. There may have been dirty dishes. But we made memories – and for that, I will be forever grateful.

 

So…I am going to give myself some grace and stop trying to be super woman. Sometimes my house will a wreck. Sometimes I will be too tired after a long day’s work and opt for a drive-thru pizza instead of a home cooked meal of baked chicken and veggies. But I will make time for what matters most. I will make time for Jesus. I will make time for my husband. I will make time for family. My future children will have memories like I have. And they will know what truly matters most.

Until I Saw It With My Own Eyes…

I am a certified nutrition coach, so OF COURSE I know that dangers of artificial sweetener. I have studied about all of the negative side effects they bring, the downsides to using them, the long-term effects…but I guess deep-down that I never really believed all of the hype.

 

Not until I saw it with my own eyes.

 

Years ago, I was a chronic Splenda user. I used three packs of it in a single cup of coffee. Yes, THREE. Slowly, I weaned myself down to two packs. Then I started mixing Stevia in with the Splenda until I had finally transitioned to using Stevia alone. It has been years since I have bought Splenda or used it in my house.

 

This past weekend, I traveled to Tulsa for a business conference. I had to fly, so I was very limited on what I could bring with me. I remembered to pack a water bottle, meal replacement shake packets, protein bars…but I forgot the stevia. For five days, I had to resort to using Splenda again. No big deal, right?

 

WRONG.

 

Almost instantly, I had severe bloating and just felt “off.” This is no surprise since Splenda reduces the healthy bacteria in your gut by up to 50%. It also increases the amount of pH in your intestines.

I was also hungry all the time. Now, granted everyone that knows me knows that I love to eat (and I can honestly out-eat almost all my friends!), but I was HUNGRY. I was also hungry for unhealthy foods that I wouldn’t normally eat, such as sweets. This is also a side effect of the artificial sweetener. Splenda can stimulate your appetite, increase carbohydrate cravings (hello, cheesecake!), and stimulate fat storage and weight gain.

Lastly, my eyes were swollen and watered the entire time I was there, which was extremely frustrating since I wear contact lenses. I had to resort my pulling out my glasses in the afternoons because I just couldn’t handle the itchy, watery, uncomfortable feeling any longer.  Now that I’m home, it has almost completely stopped.

 

Artificial sweeteners certainly do live up to the bad rap they have been given. If you have no natural sweetener alternatives, I would highly recommend resorting to sugar before ingesting artificial sweeteners. This pertains to diet sodas as well; if you must have a soda, reach for one that isn’t diet (although I strongly suggest giving them up altogether).

I know that there are others out there that have read the articles, learned the facts, and have done the research, but you also have to “see it to believe it” like I did. I hope that my experience with this will open your eyes and show that it just isn’t worth it to cut corners with your health.